Sunday, October 30, 2011

Breaking Traditions

It only took 6 days for us to break a marriage tradition...See we had planned to freeze the top of our wedding cake to save for our first anniversary, then last Friday morning as I was chatting with Brittany during our morning workout I realized: we're moving to California, duh.

I'm sure I could figure out a way to transport it out there but that sounds like a pain in the butt. Plus, it's really freaking good cake and almost everyone we've talked says it's never that good after a year. Lucky for us, I've been preoccupied and haven't put it in the freezer yet.


So we busted it out last Friday night for a happy one week anniversary wine and cake party!


The boys wanted to celebrate with us too, Basher had to check and make sure the cake was still good.


It definitely was. And I am in love with our champagne flutes! How cute are these?


Get it, they're Love Birds :) mine also sort of look like the Twitter logo but that's totally a coincidence.

Wine and cake has already become sort of a new tradition for us. We had a fair amount of leftover wedding cake and a really good bottle of wine we'd brought with us to Ocracoke (an engagement gift from my aunt and her boyfriend), so our first night alone after the wedding we also had a wine and cake party.




Wedding wine stopper from our friend Courtney :)

We broke a few other wedding traditions the day of our wedding too, one was that I opted out of the bouquet/garter tossing thing. Partly because I didn't want to stop the party to go through the motions of that (it would just take a way from my champagne sippin') and also because we had a smaller wedding so there were only a few "single" ladies there. I've been to weddings before as one of the 4 "single" (meaning non-married even if I was there with Ty) ladies forced to stand out on the dance floor, no thanks. Little did I know, Ty's dad had a very elaborate joke planned for the garter toss, it was funny so I'm sorry I messed that up!

We also technically saw each other twice on our wedding day before the ceremony. First, because we woke up together...Since our guests traveled from far far away to see us, we had a reception Friday night after the rehearsal dinner so that we could visit with everyone. Originally I'd planned for the girls to crash at the house we rented and Ty was going to stay with a group of the guys but, not wanting to waste a minute of time visiting with our friends and family, eventually everyone had gone to bed and we were the last ones up. It would have been weird for us to go our separate ways at that point so we just went back to our house together. It was actually a perfect way to end the night and get to spend a few moments together in between the craziness of everyone arriving and the whirlwind that would happen the next day. We woke up early, said our goodbyes, and didn't see each other until our "first look" right before the ceremony (the second time we saw each other that day).

We knew almost from the instant we found out what a first look was that we wanted to do it. If you've never heard of it, like we hadn't, it's when the bride and groom come together a few minutes before the ceremony to see each other for the first time. Some people think that's bad luck, but we loved it! I think it calmed us both down and allowed us to really enjoy the ceremony. Our photographer was the only one there with us and I can't wait to see the pictures! I think she got some great shots of Ty's expression when he first saw me :)

There were a lot of times during our wedding planning that we felt pressure to do what was traditional. I'm all for traditions and there were certainly plenty of others that we did do that made our wedding feel special. But, I also think not adhering to all of them made our wedding truly OUR wedding. We're looking forward to making even more traditions in the future (wine and cake is a great one to start with).

Our California packing madness starts NOW! My car is being picked up today to be shipped to our new temporary living space (thank you Jay!!) and we're allowed to pack the trunk with stuff. Let's hope these Space Saver bags we bought live up to their name!

1 comment:

  1. We didn't throw the garter either - but that's because we had a small destination wedding (35 people) and there was only one single guy there. Since I thought it would be kind of awkward just to throw it at him we just privately handed it to him!

    We also saw each other before the ceremony.

    It's all good! :o)

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